Thank you for asking a great question.
It is after a very long time that I have returned to Quora (my clients love me a lot, they keep me busy and keep referring me thus bringing more business). Hence despite Quora addiction finding time for it is now more and more difficult).
I was glad to see this question and smiled at myself “Finally someone has asked this”.
First of all, I want to say this in ALL CAPS AND BOLD:
“WE astrologerS ARE NOT FORTUNE LETTERS-WE ARE SPIRITUAL GUIDES”
And we can’t be good astrologers if we don’t share some emotional connect with the client. Their well being and progress is our responsibility.
We are human and we have feelings. After the first 1000 or so horoscopes, we do become a little immune. Like doctors. But all said and done we are humans.
So yes we rejoice in their joys and mourn their sorrows. It is like you are a wise old man of a family of hundreds of people. You feel that you have some stakes in the game, especially for the most vulnerable of family members.
Best part you are elated when you see them score. Here are a few examples:
I love it when a girl from Punjab sends me a marriage invitation writing that she couldn’t have done this without my advice. I love it when a businessman from Mumbai writes how he turned around his business within 3 months of counseling. I am elated when a spiritual old man from Rajashtan writes a mail saying “Your yantras are working magic”.
A depressed lady from UK who was on the verge of suicide, sends you a message that her life is changing and she is re-entering dating game on your guidance. A friend from US avoids a big loan that would have been a catastrophe and you feel as if you have made a difference.
I am an emotional person and don’t have any shame in admitting that (Cancer Moon). I do get upset when I listen to sad stories of my clients, feel bad for whatever has happened to them, but at the same time it gives me determination to do my best.
I often go out of my way to suggest “cheapest remedies” and discourage them from wearing costly stones when they are struggling with bad finances.
There have been instances when I have returned the fee (how can you charge a young man who was orphaned a few weeks ago), and even given a few people money from my pocket after listening to their plight (that’s very rare though as most of my clients are educated and use high tech).
So yes you feel involved. I am elated to see good days coming in a short while “Acchey Din Aaney Waley Hain” is one of my catchphrases that I even have my international clients repeat as we both laugh. Somewhat therapeutic for us both.
I often joyfully tell parents that their kids are born with great yogas and often give the little ones nick names depending upon their horocopes like “Her Highness” and “Mr. Tycoon”.
Then there is the dark side of it, I get depressed to see some hopeless cases (e.g. next 18 years of bad dasha or even an incurable curse). Things with which I can’t help. The feeling of helplessness and relating to their pains makes me feel inadequate and frustrated.
In those cases I pray for their benefit and remind myself that I am not god. There is precious little that I can do for them apart from praying.
So yes, we often feel like doctors, while we try to be detached, we can relate to their pleasures and pains and are reminded continuously that God is in charge we are just His pawns.
Clients are like family. We rejoice in their joys, we mourn their sorrows. Whenever we are able to help someone, we feel good. But just like doctors we keep reminding ourselves, “I TREAT GOD HEALS”
G. Vijay Kumar